happy couple by Todd Creager

Body image, how you view and feel about your body is an important aspect of your life whether you are single or in a committed relationship. Society has put forth its own versions of what is acceptable or not and what is attractive or not.

Remember this: be sure to take care of yourself, eat well, exercise and practice good self care and hygiene. This is for you not just your partner or prospective partner.

You have control over those things and your motivation should be health and well being.

Where lines become crossed is where our own internal inner critic can judge us because we are not perfect.

The Impact of Having a Critical Bad Body Image

I have had many clients in my office say they can only have sex in the dark or take their clothes off under the sheets. That is no way to live and no way to have intimacy.

It is important to embrace your body; its shape, your face. It is yours. Expose yourself and do not hide. If you hide your body, you add fuel to your own inner judge. If you have a partner that is a perfectionist, then strongly suggest that he gets some therapeutic help to see what is underlying HIS inner critic which is then taken out on you.

You need to celebrate yourself and celebrating your body that life gave to you is part of that celebration.

In summary- do everything you can to take care of yourself and to feel good. Build a body image based in celebration.

After that, your job is to embrace your body. Take your clothes off in front of your partner; make love with the lights on (at least some of the time).

Make sure that you don’t let your inner critic get in the way of enjoying your life and your intimacy!

Here’s to getting the love you want!

Todd Creager is an accomplished Speaker, Therapist, Consultant and Author. At his website: The Todd Creager Center for Successful Relationships, you can find out more about how to have a successful relationship–>

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