by Christian Carter
You might not see this right now, but the fastest way to connect with a man for a serious relationship is to make sure he knows he’s making you feel happy and great when you’re with him.
Think “ego.” If you think this truth about men through, you’ll start to have a shift in perspective and see something you’ve probably never seen before.
When a woman comes to a man and wants to talk about something she thinks is wrong in their relationship, often times a man gets upset NOT because he doesn’t want to listen to the woman or talk, but because it’s difficult for him to come to terms with the idea that the woman could be unhappy with him.
A man thinks, “It makes me feel like less of a man since I don’t make her happy. If she’s unhappy, then somewhere inside I must not be good enough.”
Imagine if you want to emotionally connect with a man who was constantly expressing his feelings about your relationship to you in a way that seemed disappointed and frustrated. How would it make you feel?
Sure, as a woman you might think to yourself that you’d talk to him about it and try and make things better, but really you’d start to have one of two things come into your mind either consciously or subconsciously.
If You Want To Connect With a Man – You Don’t Want To Be Thinking This Way:
1. You might think something really is wrong with you and the way you are in the relationship, and that he’s trying to tell you.
2. Or, you might think something is wrong with HIM and how he thinks and feels that has nothing to do with you, and it’s his own “bad thinking” about himself that’s making him obsessively unhappy.
Either way, a whole lot more distance is created between you two. It’s hard to connect with a man when there’s distance.
Now, lots of women draw the conclusion that this means you should try and pretend things are okay when they’re not, that when you’re not having the physical and emotional connection with a man you know is possible, that you can’t communicate how you feel with a man. WRONG.
My point is if you want to learn how to connect with a man on a deeper level, then what you say ISN’T the most important thing. It’s HOW and WHEN you say it.
How Do You Connect With a Man Who Isn’t Communicating?
I’ll tell you something – learning the secrets of communicating with a man and creating a deep level of physical and emotional attraction can be very rewarding.
A lot of women know exactly what it’s like to be in a relationship with a man who has no intention of committing to something more serious.
In other words, he’s not feeling that powerful gut-level ATTRACTION for you that makes all the fear and excuses for not being with you and building a great life and partnership go away without resistance.
Do you know how to make a man feel this way when he’s with you? Or are you still trying to “convince” him with words and your own knowledge and “logic” that a close, loving, lasting relationship with him will make him and you happy together?
Well, let me tell you, just like all the other things that a man “says” that he wants and doesn’t want with a woman that most women don’t ever “get,” being the woman a man is NATURALLY attracted to on a deep level is one of the big ones.
This kind of attraction is THE thing that will make a man who “says” he doesn’t want a serious relationship beg a woman for a real commitment and a future together. If you understand the secrets of how attraction works for a man, you will notice that men will start to behave very differently around you, and you’ll see an increase in his happiness.
Note From The Editor: Check out Christian’s website for more tips and insight into attraction and the best way to connect with a man.