body languageHow do you use body language to attract the opposite sex?

If you’re a woman, the key is to make yourself approachable.

According to nationally-respected body language expert and professional speaker, Patti Wood, you want to make yourself a “safe” (read approachable) target.

How do you accomplish that?

1. Don’t take up a lot of space (which is a sign of wanting power and superiority.)

Wood says, “we are strong women, but remember, we’re trying to get a man to come over and talk to us.” She explains, “you have to show you have room for someone else in your life.”

2. In addition, Wood says “to be very approachable women should stand with their feet no farther than 6 inches apart with toes pointed slightly inward.

3. Other key moves – the nod and the head tilt – signal you’re listening to what the other person has to say.

Here’s how men attract WOMEN with body language:

Appearing more dominant effectively draws the attraction of women. (duh…)

So, if you’re a man reading this: To attract women, stand with your feet 6-10 inches apart, and toes pointing outward. Feel free to take up some space. For men who are victims of the “nice guy” badge, or who appear to be too submissive to attract women, try taking your Y chromosome out for a spin. Try wearing bulkier clothing or more conservative hairstyles or clothing.” Hold your head up, and speed up your speech and gestures to be more assertive.

From Sarah: I thought the “conservative” ideas were interesting – these are results from studies…so, apparently, we’re most attracted to a man who seems “together” and “successful” (of course, not all of us…) in a GQ or Esquire way for all kinds of reasons…

Body language tips for both sexes:

Don’t fold your arms and don’t chew on gum, ice or your fingernails. According to Wood, the chewing indicates anxiety or frustration, neither of which are very attractive emotions.


Psychology and body language experts agree that one of the most important things you can do to make yourself more attractive (and approachable) is to smile.

Not a great big plastic game-show smile, just your normal “I’m having a great time and I’m happy to be here” face will do the trick. According to Wood, “the smile is the international signal of friendliness.”

From The Editors: Body language is an art and a science. Communicating through “signals” is a great skill that makes a huge difference for you in business, in friendship, in making your way through the maze of social and everyday task-running – and especially in love. “Getting” what a man is saying to you with his body, his eyes, his mouth, his feet – all of him – can clue you in quickly on what to do when you first meet a man.

And even more important – you NEED to know what signals YOU’RE giving off.  Are you “thinking” that you’re flirting with a man when actually he’s seeing you as “cold”? Are you “thinking” that you’re being warm and friendly when actually what he’s picking up from you is “anger”? Take a Look at our “Attract The Hell Out Of Him – Crack The Secret Code Of His Body Language” Girl’s Guide – you’ll be in command of a skill that can tip the scales in your favor in love just by being able to communicate through body language->

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