by Rori Raye
Has a man ever disappointed you?
Made you feel like “less” and “not enough” and like you’re not as important as whatever it is he’s doing?
I remember that feeling being a standard part of every relationship – no matter how much great relationship advice I got from friends and family, it happened over and over again.
I remember struggling with myself and enduring such second-class treatment, that I’m embarrassed to talk about it. Yet, there I was, still talking myself into excusing him, or making the reality of things into my fantasy of what I wished it would be.
It was like I ignored my own feelings and intuition, and just kept going – ruled by my feelings for a man.
If this is happening to you – if finding a relationship or getting the relationship you’re in to the next level of commitment is ruling your thoughts and emotions, if you feel sad more than you feel happy – it doesn’t have to be that way.
With every Rori Raye Tool – you get an unexpected result –
YOU feel better, and amazingly, a man notices that difference in your vibe.
Then, you’re able to use words to communicate and connect with that man in a terrifically effective, powerful way – so that you CONTINUE to feel better, and HE continues to feel more and more attracted to you.
And, because you feel so good inside, and would never even consider doing anything that would be against your best interests, like tolerating bad behavior or making excuses for a man, or not telling the truth – EVERYTHING in your life gets better.
So – here’s a Tool to help with everything: BE UNPREDICTABLE:
We’re so used to thinking of “unpredictability” as dangerous.
As filled with drama, and uncontrolled emotions, and moodiness.
And…well, the truth is – it can be about that.
But – it only happens like that when we’re not paying attention to ourselves, to what’s really going on with us – and we instead react knee-jerk fashion with our old patterns and triggers.
In other words – the drama only happens when we’re not in touch with how we’re feeling in the moment, and so we react out of habit.
And usually, we’re not in touch because we’re using all our energy to stuff down the feelings we’re truly having and trying to make everything be peaceful and pleasant on the outside.
Well, trying to control what happens is worse than useless – it destroys our attractiveness. It makes us small and tight, and makes us feel needy and desperate.
And what’s worse – all the relationship advice we’ve ever heard our whole lives tells us that this trying to control our feelings and what’s going on with a man is “right,” when, actually – it’s completely wrong and won’t work for us in love.
So – here’s 10 ways we make being unpredictable a great-feeling thing?
1. Make a list of situations you seem to encounter over and over – and leave at least 4 lines of space between each entry.
“He acts this way and then I feel…” Or,
“He says this and then I do this…” Or,
“I want this, and there’s just no man around…” Or
“I want this, and he’s just not doing it…”
Write down situations where you feel frustrated, upset, and can’t seem to get your point across in a way a man can hear, or feel like you’re just not getting the attention you deserve.
2. Go back over your list, and beneath each situation, write down what you “usually” do in that situation.
Write down what you’re thinking, what you’re feeling in your heart and your body, and what you say and do when that situation happens
3. Now look over your list and see if there’s a pattern.