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What’s in a name?

I used to hate my name.

Everytime I heard a man say “Rori” it made me think of myself as a nerdy, wallflower-y, unsexy, unattractive little girl.

I felt embarrassed.

And I know that led me into the arms and beds of men who had nothing to offer me.

It was as though I wanted to be with them so they’d make me feel sexier, prettier, more fun, and “popular.”

It was as though I were trying to prove I deserved to even BE with a man.

How sad is that?

And yet, I know all of us STILL have some of that in the way we think of ourselves.

What do you think of when you hear your name, or say it to yourself?

I wanted to give you a simple Tool that can make a huge change in your life – Let’s call it: Naming Yourself.

It will help you CHANGE EVERYTHING – which will help you lift up your feelings about yourself (especially when you’re in a challenging situation with a man), and so – will change your vibe, and the way men feel when they’re around you.

He’ll feel attracted! (He won’t know why – he’ll just feel compelled to be with you.)

If you’ve ever tried anything new – clothes, hair, anything, then you know a name is a pretty big thing just for how it feels inside you.

So, what if you took on a new name?

Not necessarily publicly, but just for fun, for yourself?

We’ll do it together.

For instance, we could add: “A Goddess who deserves and will have, right now, beautiful, brilliant love from a wonderful man,” onto our name.

So, I’ll be Rori Raye, A Goddess who deserves and will have, right now, beautiful, brilliant love from a wonderful man, and you’ll be (your name), A Goddess who deserves and will have, right now, beautiful, brilliant love from a wonderful man!

Let me know how it feels to call yourself a Goddess, because you are! I know it!

Try a bunch of ideas.

Perhaps there are aspects of yourself you’d like to bring out more, like “Angel,” or “Warrior,” or “Peaceful.”

You can use that alone (like Rori Peaceful), or tack it on to the Goddess name, like Rori Angel Goddess.

You might even pick out some physical things to represent your new name and keep them around you and carry them with you.

That could be Goddess-inspired jewelry or a picture of an angel, a warrior, or a peaceful-spirited woman who inspires you.

Please write and let me know how trying on a new, powerful and beautiful name feels to you, and let me know how you’re doing.

Look for the next issues on stopping a man from withdrawing, loving yourself first so he’ll feel compelled to give you love, changing your vibe, and dealing with jealousy, commitment issues, and how to “Bridge” to your Happy Ever After.

Love, Rori

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  1. Meredith on November 12, 2008 at 10:24 pm

    This is such a great idea. I will have to try it for sure. I love the idea that we are all godesses, or angels or rockstars or whatever we want to be. Thank You

  2. Kerry on December 14, 2008 at 6:17 am

    I know there are times when I haven’t treated myself as well as I should have due to my own self-esteem and confidence about myself. By using your method of naming, I will be less-inclined to fall for men who are below me and who make me feel worse about myself. Kerry the driven beauty works for me. Thank you. :)

  3. star on January 8, 2009 at 8:22 pm

    I like the idea and I agree to the author. There are some times that I am insecure to other woman that is so attractive and beautiful. and I am scared that my man will lave me. But as I read this column, I realize what are my mistakes. Now, I have all the confidence to show my hidden beauty and be the most beautiful goddess nor angel to my husband. Thanks for the brilliant idea. it will really help me.

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