by Christian Carter
Okay- tell me this – are you having an easy time creating the kind of connection with a man that turns a few typical “dates” into the beginning of an amazing relationship?
Are you finding it more difficult than you think it should be to find a great man and go from him just feeling “casual” about dating you to WANTING and NEEDING YOU on both a physical and emotional level?
If so, then I’m going to show you 4 things that are “must-have’s” to build connection and win the right man’s heart.
These are also the things that men don’t talk about but that DRIVE MEN WILD when they recognize them and experience them in you.
If you learn these and put them to use in your love life, the right man is sure to experience a connection and see you as that unique and special woman he just has to have in his life forever.
Ready to discover these?
Before we get started, I want to clear the air on something important.
There are Real Men… and then there are men who do NOT have their act together.
Real Men are mature and grounded on a physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual level.
They might not have everything they want in their life… but they are on a great path and open to connection and growing on a deeply personal level.
The opposite of a Real Man is a Boy.
A Boy will become uncomfortable when he gets too close to his own emotions, or too close to a woman who truly sees him inside and out, for better and worse.
A Man knows who he is and will listen, learn and communicate even when he sees or senses that the woman in his life is unhappy or disapproving of something about him or his actions.
The things that will make a Real Man appreciate and admire a woman are often things that a “lesser” man would be annoyed, frustrated, or put off by.
Now that we’re clear on that, things should be a whole lot clearer here with what will draw a real man to you and make him want more.
The Keys to Connection:
***A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is Playful
There’s something that drives men wild and invites them into a deeper level of “connection” and bonding with a woman faster than plain old talk about feelings and experiences.
And that something is PLAY.
See… men love to be active and to play.
Men were raised to express themselves and build connection with those around them through ACTION.
Unfortunately, too many women seem to forget this and want to TALK TALK TALK their way into a man’s heart.
The strange reality is that as you’re getting to know a man… MORE TALK will often get you LESS RESPONSE from a man in terms of emotional connection.
Sure, talking is great to get the facts, and for you to share some things such as your VALUES, and what you do or don’t want in a relationship.
But the fact is that men don’t “feel it” for you because of what you SAY. (Just like you don’t meet a man and feel it for him because he has a great “pick-up line”!)
It’s not the words… it’s the experience.
And for men, the easiest and most straightforward way for a man to engage in an emotional connection with you is by DOING THINGS with him that DON’T require talking, but allow you to be PLAYFUL with him.
The Things that Create Connection:
“Doing things” is pretty vague… so I’ll give you a couple examples of PLAYFUL activity you can do with a man that are sure to dial up the emotional intensity, and have him grow more ATTACHED to you:
-Sports: Not all men love sports or are great at them, and you might not like them either, but that’s not the point here.
The point here is to play a sport with a man because it involves aspects of a “game”. You against him competing.
Any sport will do. Ping pong is an easy favorite because no one is really “good”… and you can have all kinds of playful banter hitting the ball back and forth.
Pool is another good one since it’s easy to find when you’re out together- plus you can tease him him by placing your gorgeous self in front of where he’s aiming and distract him so he misses his shot.
Then, when you’re shooting, ask him to come over and help you so he puts his arms around you. Nice! What man wouldn’t love that invitation.
Then if you miss, blame it on him in a fun sarcastic way.
Bottom line, if a man is being active and engaging in a playful game with you while there is also some kind of TOUCHING involved… it’s a magic combination that’s sure to raise the ATTRACTION and CONNECTION levels up several notches.
-Teasing: For men, teasing is a universal way of bonding and communicating that is like an unspoken language that all men speak.
Every man I know at one time or another has told me a story about at least one exciting and attractive woman they once met.
Almost all of these stories involve one common theme- the women they were with started TEASING them.
Teasing is easier than you might think. The one catch is to do it all with a sense of humor and fun… and don’t get too serious.
The best way to tease a man playfully is to be SARCASTIC with him.
If he asks “Do you have the time?” and you have a watch on…
Look at him straight in the eyes and say “Yes,” smile, and then turn away from him without telling him the time and stop paying attention to him
He’ll realize that you’re being funny and see that he only asked you is you KNEW the time, not to tell him.
Then he’ll either ask you directly what the time is, or he’ll start immediately being playful back at you.
And away you go playing together.
This kind of thing is subtle, but builds a growing level of ATTRACTION and CONNECTION inside a man for you.
Again, what’s not important is the WORDS you’re saying.
What’s important is that you’re intentionally either misleading him with your words to mess with him, or you’re playfully making fun of him.
Some women feel uncomfortable with teasing or making fun of a man. But for men, it’s again another way they connect socially.
The funny part is, the more you can tease a man and have him laughing and wanting you to be serious for a minute… the more he’s going to be wanting to get close to you and know you better.
It’s funny how men and human nature works.
Try it. You’ll love how a man responds! And you’ll find the connection you’re looking for.
From Sarah: Christian has so much insight, and not just into men, but also into women! He knows what you want and he knows how you can get it. Find out more about how you can build your relationships with men through attraction and connection->