by David Wygant
Do you consider yourself shy when it comes to dating and being able to comfortably approach men?
Do you walk around and say to yourself “I wish I weren’t shy so I could approach men.”
Has this ever happened to you — You see a man you’re attracted to and so badly want to walk over to him and say “hi” or smile at him or take SOME kind of action…
…but you can’t work up the guts to do it?
Can you relate to this?
And how frustrating is that? Especially if it’s happened to you over and over again.
Let me tell you something…
YOU DON’T HAVE TO EVER EXPERIENCE THAT KIND OF DATING FRUSTRATION AGAIN – Beginning Right Now!
How would you like to never feel “shy” again when it comes to meeting, attracting and approaching men?
OK, let me tell you how to make that happen…
When I hear women label themselves as “shy,” I know they are limiting their opportunities to meet and connect with men every day.
How do I know this?
Because after coaching hundreds of men and women over the last eleven years I’ve seen it all – and I’ve worked with every kind of person imaginable. There is virtually nothing about people I haven’t seen … or helped them overcome for that matter.
And so here’s something you need to understand:
Being shy isn’t a physical trait like having brown eyes … you can eliminate it and overcome it!
Here Are 4 Tips To Help You Forever Overcome Dating Shyness:
***TIP #1: ELIMINATE SHYNESS FROM YOUR IDENTITY***
If someone asks you if you’re shy, what is your answer?
Do you say “Yes, I am a shy person?”
When you say that, you are accepting that being shy is just part of who you are – that it’s part of your identity. By you telling yourself (and others) that you are a shy person, you are negatively affecting your own mindset.
It is very limiting — and YOU deserve so much more than what you are allowing yourself
One of the first, and most important ways to overcome shyness is to be conscious about eliminating it as part of your identity.
One way to get to that place if you are having trouble is to speak about yourself as if you’ve already overcome your shyness. The next time someone asks you if you’re shy, you can say “I am no longer a shy person.”
As you continue to say this, you will believe it.
***TIP #2: STOP LISTENING TO THAT MONKEY CHATTER***
Are you asking what monkey chatter is — or what it has to do with dating and being shy?
Don’t worry, I’m going to explain…
What goes on in your head and what do you think about when you feel shy? Do a whole bunch of different thoughts go through your your mind like monkey chatter you hear at the Central Park Zoo?
Are there what seem like hundreds of monkeys screaming all different things in you ear, none of which are good thoughts?
This is what I call “monkey chatter.”
Do you think that you can’t talk to men or feel at ease just being yourself when you’re dating because you’re shy?
Do you believe that people next to you are thinking negative things about you because of your shyness, or about how you look or about anything else about you?
You need to stop listening to all of this negative talk – to all of this monkey chatter – in your head.
Be aware of when your perception about a situation comes solely from these negative thoughts in your head, and then consciously choose to ignore them.
You need to stop speculating and assuming things about what’s going on around you based on then negative chatter in your head.
It will lead you astray every time.
***TIP #3: REALIZE YOU’RE NOT BEING JUDGED***
Do you ever refrain from approaching a man because you were worried about what people around you would think think about you?