by Rori Raye
If you’ve ever found yourself in the middle of a great, hot relationship that’s suddenly going cold, you know it feels like he’s pulling the rug out from under you and dashing your hopes of this ever being a long term relationship.
It’s a total surprise. It catches you completely off-guard. And it feels so underhanded and unfair. What’s worse, if that’s possible, is it makes you feel angry and helpless, both at the same time, and it’s almost paralyzing.
If you’re experiencing the man you want pulling away from you and the relationship instead of committing to you forever, and watching helplessly while the love you thought you had in the palm of your hand drifts away, like it was never even there, my heart just goes out to you – I know it’s excruciatingly painful.
It doesn’t matter what happened, or who made mistakes, or even if he’s the right man in the first place.
It just plain HURTS.
It feels like one more loss you just don’t want to have happen to you.
I Remember Thinking I Was In A Long Term Relationship – and To Him – We Were Just “Dating”
When it happened to me (I can think of at least 3 times when the pain was enough to send me into hiding for months and months without even a date – before I figured out what I’m sharing with you now), I was just stunned.
It was like one moment I was in heaven, and the next I was in hell.
One moment he was loving me, the sex was fantastic, and the next, he was ignoring me.
One moment he was kissing and hugging me and inviting me to weekend getaways, and the next he was clearly interested in another woman and flirting with her right in front of my face.
And these were the NICE guys!
It hurt them to think they were hurting me.
They allowed me to drag on our relationship as long as I wanted because – let’s face it – we woman are incredible.
I was cute, good in bed, smart, talented, funny, loyal, nice….a good Girl Scout of a woman.
Who wouldn’t want to hang out with me and sleep with me?
Hanging Out Isn’t A Long Term Relationship
I never felt used, because they weren’t using me.
They were there with me because it felt good to them when they were with me.
But when they WEREN’T WITH ME, they were wherever they WANTED TO BE.
And that could be any number of places, doing any number of things, and being with any number of people.
And they never even cheated!
They never dated other women, because I was fine enough for now, and they didn’t want to rock the boat any more than I did.
It was like a great, PRETEND relationship.
Good for NOW.
It just wasn’t a genuine, real, long term relationship.
And when I learned what I’m now teaching you, I could look back and SEE how I’d let that happen.
I could see that he may have pulled the rug out from under me, but it was ME who’d put the rug down in the first place, and ME who’d put it over NOTHING but air.
I’d ALWAYS been standing my pretend, IMAGINARY RELATIONSHIP on thin air.
An Imaginary Relationship Keeps Us From Having the Real, Long Term Relationship We Want
My relationships were made of dreams.
My head was in the clouds.
They were just men. They were in charge of themselves.
I WAS IN CHARGE OF ME.
I beat myself up plenty for doing a “bad job” of being in charge of myself.
And then, one day, instead of beating myself up yet another minute, another day, another month, I figured out how to take GOOD charge of myself.
And now you can do it too – I believe in you.
All you need is the Tools, and then men (they’re everywhere, so that’s easy) to practice the Tools ON.
You are already, right now, just by reading this letter, taking charge of your own life.
Now let’s take your life where you want it to go!
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