by Christian Carter
Here’s what you need to know right now…
If you “lose your cool” too often in a relationship, or you act in a way a man thinks is too “needy”… guess how it’s going to make him feel?
He’s going to feel the OPPOSITE of ATTRACTED to you.
As in he will actually feel REPELLED by you.
Ummm… not good.
In fact, this is usually the kiss of death with a man if it happens early on.
After a man gets that gut-level negative “Eeeewwww” feeling about a woman…it’s like a door has swung shut and a man will never open it with her again.
Why is this?
The short answer is because when a man sees a woman act this way… unconsciously he stops trusting her.
And when this happens, it’s impossible for a man to open up and share his thoughts or feelings with her in any real way ever again.
Not to mention ever feel an emotional connection or an attraction for her.
Unconsciously Killing a Chance at a Relationship
Now, as bad as all this is… guess what’s worse? Most women who end up making these kinds of mistakes have NO CLUE that they’re making these mistakes and shutting the door to a relationship themselves.
Have you ever called a man, and started talking to him, only to realize that he was in a COMPLETELY different mood than the way he was with you before?
Like he just “turned cold” on you all of a sudden, even though nothing had really happened or changed as far as you knew.
It was almost like you were talking to a completely different guy than then one you were with just a day or two before… and it made no sense.
Actually, it completely FREAKED YOU OUT.
And when you tried to talk about it… it was like that part of him you used to connect with just wasn’t there anymore.
And when you asked him what was wrong, he replied:
And that was it.
It was one of those conversations where you could just TELL that something wasn’t right… and that he wasn’t going to be calling you or initiating much of anything with you. Maybe ever again.
And each time you tried to talk to him or communicate with him, it was like he couldn’t get away from you quick enough. Or like he wasn’t even there.
Which just made you feel even more FREAKED OUT and upset.
But the more you felt like he was pulling away and felt rejected by him, the more you couldn’t keep yourself from either emotionally breaking down when you talked to him…
Or trying anything and everything you could think of to make him “into you” again.
But all this you were doing in an attempt to save things only made him want to run even faster away from you.
What’s going on here?
Here’s the with Men, Attraction and the Relationship
I personally think that these kinds of frustrating situations for women come down to a few key DEEPER ISSUES.
And I think that if you don’t have these other issues “handled”, and you don’t know what to do around a man to break out of the common patterns most women stay trapped in, then you’re going to keep running into the same problems with man after man… and NEVER even know WHY you can’t have the true love in your life you know is possible.
I mean, it’s bad enough to keep having a particular problem with a man… or to suffer from similar problems with several men as a recurring pattern in your love life…
But the reality is that, just like you, most women want true love and security in a relationship.
And even though they might have the best of intentions in their actions with a man… they still might NEVER come across the actual solution for being able to connect and communicate with the man in their life and make things work out in the end.
Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be this way.
Now, I want you to start thinking about all this in a new way.
Let’s start here…
If you’re wanting to talk to a man, and you’re already feeling anxious, scared, and unsure of what to say and if you’re ever going to be able to get him to respond to you and open up… then there is no “magic pill” to solve your problem.
None of the “right words” are going to make your situation better.
Because YOU are your own problem – not the words you’re trying to find.
Let me explain…
If you call your man up and you need to talk to him… and you tell him how you feel and that you wish he would open up to you…
And then he says “Look, why don’t we talk later. I’m tired.” and you get that sinking feeling because you know he’s blowing you off…
The reality is that you’re not going to be able to make things better by trying harder or asking him questions more often.
The answer isn’t trying more of the same.
It’s in using a completely different approach and mindset.
Christian Carter is the most caring man coaching women out there…he’s so sweet, so handsome, and he’s been working with women for so long he really understands how we work, and is committed to helping us crack the code of men and taking the mystery completely out of relationships. Go to get his free newsletters right here and take the mystery out of your relationship->