by Virginia Feingold Clark
Are you confused about a man? Do you feel stuck?
Are you at a loss as to how to get what you want in your relationship — or from someone you’re dating?
Are you constantly second-guessing yourself, unable to decide what to do or not do? What to say or not to say?
What do you think is causing your confusion and inability to make a decision?
Well, there’s a good chance that you might be making a common mistake, that you’re listening to the conflicting advice of other people — primarily your girlfriend’s!
Of course your girlfriends mean well and they want the best for you, but it’s impossible for them to be completely honest with you; after all they don’t want to hurt your feelings and they want to keep you as a friend.
Unfortunately, they can’t be totally objective. They can’t help but react to your problems in a personal way. They have judgments and prejudices they’ve picked up from their own experiences, and many are so ingrained they are unaware they have them.
Not only that, your girlfriend’s opinions are influenced by their fears and expectations for their own lives, so they will project those on to you and not be able to see the truth of what you need.
I’m not saying don’t trust what they’re telling you, but you must listen to their advice with more than “a grain of salt.”
It’s natural to want to talk to your friends about what’s going on in your life, but it is not always helpful.
A passing comment made by a friend can stick in your mind and influence your feelings — and not always for the better.
So if you find yourself confused about a man, unable to move forward due to the conflicting advice you’re getting from friends, it’s time to take a break.
It’s time to talk to them about everything except your relationship and give your inner knowing a chance to advise you.
Ultimately only you know the truth of what you need and dynamics of your particular situation.
If you need assistance getting “unconfused” seek out the objective ear of a professional. They won’t be concerned with pleasing you or maintaining your friendship.
Don’t let other people’s opinions throw you off-course and make you start doubting yourself. Their opinions have value, but you have to decide what advice is beneficial for you before you to take it to heart.
Don’t forget things can change in an instant, so don’t lose hope!
Sending you love,
Virginia is the real deal. Her story of meeting her man late in life and getting married (she’d never been married before) is amazing, and her ebook “It’s Never Too Late To Marry” will give you the hope you need, step-by-step instructions on how to make it happen for yourself, and the inspiration to transform your love life. Go here to check out Virginia and learn how to stop feeling confused about a man->