You’re madly in love with your guy, but sometimes, it’s feels like you’re taking crazy pills when he does things that confuse you.
“What is it exactly that makes him tick?” you might be wondering.
“Why can’t I connect with him in the way that we should?” You know – deep in your bones – that you could create a wonderful relationship, but you don’t know how to get there.
Well, I’ll save you the guesswork and let you know what’s brewing inside that head of his. Building a deeper connection with a guy starts with knowing a few basic but overlooked truths about how he works and what he’s thinking: (Get even more info by Clicking Here!)
#1: You Can’t Change Him
Ok, maybe I’m exaggerating a bit. People do change all the time – heck, nature IS change.
But here’s the thing: he’s not going to change his stripes just because you asked him to. Or you nagged him to.
You have to understand that men only change for a woman that he’s in love with – and that he’s got a DEEP connection with. (And those two are actually NOT the same.)
If anything, he’ll dig in his heels and RESIST all your attempts to change him. As far as he’s concerned, he’s all about “take it or leave it.”
However, there is a way around this. If there is something that isn’t working for you in the relationship, just tell him what’s up without sounding like you’re accusing him.
For example, if you think that the jokes he makes around your friends are too R-rated for your taste, you can go, “Hey sweetie, I really love that you have a great sense of humor, but I’d really love it if you saved the raunchier jokes for us. The girls just aren’t down with kind of material.”
To get him to really change to suit your tastes, you have to get that connection FIRST.
#2: Deep Down, His Motivations Are Simple
No matter how attractive, hip or successful he is, he’s anything but complicated.
Men like to keep it simple, in spite of the nice-and-sensitive-yet-tough-and-mysterious personality he’s elaborately crafted to impress you.
Sure, he has the same emotional and intellectual depth as you, but the difference is that he doesn’t want any drama in the relationship.
He’s not into mind games, passive aggressive tactics or anything else that feels like a burden to him. Which makes it much easier for you when you know how to tap into those motivations to get him to do what you want.
#3: He LOVES it when you have a girl’s night out
Don’t fall for his pouty “Oh, I’ll just sit home and read” face. He’s excited that you’re going out without him.
First, it shows independence and gives us guys love the occasional night alone—we get to act like sloppy bachelors again, if only for a night.
So while you’re out, we’re playing video games, watching action movies, listening to old bands from high school.
Plus, absence makes the heart grow fonder, right?
A little away time is never a bad thing.
#4: He won’t start ditching his friends until AFTER he’s fallen for you.
Sure, you’re soulmates and all that. But asking him to sacrifice his “me time” so you can bond with him is like asking the sun to stop shining.
He had a life before he met you, so he’ll love you even more if you respect his need to “do his own thing” for a while. Being cool about it will make him miss you and wonder what you’re doing while he’s hanging out with his friends.
Yeah, he could probably stand to ditch a few of the “loser” guys he might hang out with from time to time. But he won’t do that until AFTER he’s gotten a deep connection with you that he can trust and rely on.
He has to know that when he’s upgrading his circle of friends, he’s got a stable relationship with you.
#5: You Don’t Know What His Connection Style Is…Yet.
The truth is that every guy has his own way to connect with you – and the problem is that most women can’t figure out what his unique Connection Style is.
And this is the most CRUCIAL aspect of creating a solid, lasting relationship with any man. In fact, if you don’t know exactly what his Connection Style is, you’re STOPPING him from committing to you completely.
But the good news is that it’s SO easy to build the powerful connection you need to keep your guy FOR GOOD.
Just go watch this short presentation to discover the missing piece of the puzzle.
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