by Susie Collins
The other day I was with a group of women and a common theme and a desire kept coming up that you might relate to…
These women (including me) feel that especially right now during the holidays that they easily get overwhelmed with the “doing.”
They find that they aren’t really “present” with the ones they love and care about–and they are just going through the motions with their minds on what they have to do next.
Instead of enjoying the present moment, they’re worried about getting all they have to do done–and they realize that they’re missing out on so much but they don’t know how to stop it.
If you’re getting caught up in the “doing” and missing out on the fun and enjoyment of being with those you love, you’re not alone.
It seems to go with the territory of being a wife, a mother, a daughter, a sister–but it doesn’t have to be that way.
Here are a few ideas to help you be more present and enjoy yourself and your loved ones so much more at the holidays…
What We Women Find So Hard
1. Give yourself the gift of saying “no”
As women, we often have not learned or given ourselves the permission to say no. We’ve been taught to be of service and to help others–and that it’s “selfish” to deny someone else something that we can do for them.
Now I’m all for being of service but the truth is that if you truly don’t want to do whatever it is the other person is asking–or if you may want to do it but can’t squeeze another thing in to be done…
You can’t possible be totally present when you’re fulfilling the request and it may even backfire on you.
Your intention may be of service but you end up getting angry at the person with snide comments or blatant withdrawal–and they don’t have a clue what happened.
An honest “no” is better than a dishonest “yes” no matter what time of year it is!
2. Grab your thoughts and steer them into what you want in the present moment.
Here’s the tricky part–you have to start noticing when your thoughts pull you away into that never-never land of the future and steer yourself back into being “with” what’s in front of you right now.
I’ve had the experience of being pulled into the future with my thoughts of what I have to “do” next–and being oblivious to what someone is saying to me right now.
(I think most of us can admit to that one!)
When this happens, I lose connection with the person I’m with. I’m not really “there.”
What I do when I realize that I’m “gone” is gently bring my attention to what’s right in front of me right now.
It works every time.
Even if you have to do it many times, just keep doing it and see how much more fun, connection and enjoyment there is when you’re in the present moment.
Being present with those you care about is one way to not only celebrate the holidays but also to give yourself the greatest gift of all–love.
Much Love to you
Susie’s Quote Of The Week…
“Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. And today? Today is a gift. That’s why we call it the present.”
~Alice Morse Earle
From Sarah: Susie and Otto have the relationship, the marriage, and the professional track record to help you get the love you want and deserve using WORDS! We love their book “Magic Relationship Words” – and know it will help you tremendously to communicate your wants and needs -and even what upsets you – with a man in a way that will change the relationship for the better. Just go here to learn how you can create magic in your love life with “Magic Relationship Words”–>>