by Christian Carter
I’m about to share secrets about how to meet and create intense attraction with a great guy that some women know but won’t tell you, or can’t explain.
If you’ve ever wondered about what draws a man in to connect deeply with a woman early so he can’t help but want to see her again (for more than just a fling) then keep reading…
You’re also about to hear insights into how attraction, dating, and relationships honestly work for men, and what to do about it.
Here we go…
Have you ever noticed that just talking to men for the first time, getting to know each other, and exchanging contact information can turn into some kind of impossible puzzle or “game?”
And the more you think about it or about trying new things, the more you just want to avoid the whole thing?
It’s frustrating and annoying, right?
Does it have to be so much work?
Can’t we both just be ourselves and get past all the tricks, games, etc.?
Well, The Truth Is, It Doesn’t Have To Be Such An Ordeal And Seem Like Such A Game…If, And Only If, You Know How Attraction Works For A Man.
I’ll repeat that.
It doesn’t have to be a game IF, and only if, you know how attraction works for HIM.
Notice that I didn’t say how attraction works for YOU.
Have you ever thought about how attraction actually works for men, and how it could be different than how it works for you?
Well, then let me ask you…
Do you know what makes the difference between a man flirting and perhaps feeling some “physical attraction” for you, and a man that becomes almost INSTANTLY CONNECTED and attracted to you on a deeper physical AND emotional level?
I’ll give you a minute to think about the question…
Got it yet?
The thing is, lots of women THINK they know how things SHOULD WORK with men, but their idea or “strategy” just hasn’t seemed to work out so well in their long, and sometimes disappointing, relationship history.
And the crazier part is that most women never really change their ideas or “strategies” on how they go about finding and creating love, connection, and commitment in their lives with men, even when they just aren’t working.
So how can YOU change your ideas and “strategies” to find and create a strong love connection that really LASTS?
I’ll share the answer with you in just a minute, but first I’d like to talk about HOW ATTRACTION WORKS around first impressions and early on in the “casual dating” stage.
Then we’ll look at the “deeper” kind of attraction a man can feel for a woman and talk about some specific “how to’s” that will instantly take your love life to a more fun, resistance-free level as you and a man get closer and closer.
Creating A Deeper Level Of Attraction And A Great Impression Right From The Start
Have you had several relationships fall apart in the past, the same way with different men?
And when it happened, did you start to think that all men have a common set of problems or “issues” that they can’t see for themselves, let alone do anything about?
Well, if you recognize this, then odds are you’ve also had that fear and doubt in the back of your mind that there was also something wrong with YOU here, not just with him.
And, unfortunately, you also blamed yourself for some of HIS problems and shortcomings.
Ouch! Don’t go to that negative place.
The truth is that you’re not alone, and the good news is that it doesn’t take months or years of therapy to find your own understanding of how things REALLY work with men, and to stop being so hard on yourself about it.
And it doesn’t take months of intense schooling or training to change your love life for the better and get back to that open, connected, loving place that you know is there for you with a man.
Let’s talk about how things often work in those first encounters between men and women, and what’s going on underneath the surface here… because first impressions are VERY IMPORTANT.
The short explanation is that men make almost INSTANT JUDGMENTS about how they feel about a woman right when they first meet them.
Everything that happens after a man has a first impression of a woman logged in his mind gets “filtered” through that impression, and it colors almost everything he sees and feels.
So what impression are you making?
Do you know?
And what impression is THE BEST ONE to make?
Let’s Start With The Basics And Look At The Situation Early On When A Man Asks A Woman For Her Number
When this happens, for a man, it generally means one of several things:
– “I think you’re interesting enough to see again and find out if I could be attracted to you…” (not feeling much attraction or connection yet, but curious)
– “I had a great time talking and I’d like to do it again sometime…” (likes the conversation and attention, but he doesn’t “feel it” yet, even though there’s a “logical” or rational connection or bond with things in common)
– “I’m physically attracted to you, and I want to hook up with you, but I haven’t really thought about anything else it might lead to or mean for me…” (feeling just a physical attraction, with no thoughts or conscious intentions beyond getting physical)
– “I feel attracted to you, and maybe “something more”… so I want to see you again to explore these feelings and find out what you’re really all about…” (feeling both a physical attraction AND a deeper connection)
Any of these look familiar in hindsight?
Well, for women who are in a place where they want a real, loving, lasting relationship, it’s important to know what a man is thinking early on and where he’s already at from the start.