By Michael Webb

Are you frustrated that your relationship doesn’t have the magic and romance that it once had?

You’re not alone.

Living with the same man for a long time can become stable and comfortable, and, as a result, can also kill the spark that made your relationship so special in the first place.

Here Are Some Simple, Fun And Creative Ideas To Reignite That Magic In Your Relationship:

1. SEND HIM A UNIQUE GIFT

Get a piece of paper and some crayons.

Draw a bright childlike picture with a smiley sun and two stick figures holding hands.

Add labels with your two names pointing to the stick figures.

Write ‘I Love You’ inside a heart. Next get a large formal envelope.

Place your drawing inside and type up a formal address label of his workplace, such as: “For the immediate and urgent attention of: Bill Jones, Level 20, Collins & Smith Solicitors, New York.”

Mail it to him so he’ll receive it in the middle of a busy day.

2. BECOME KIDS AGAIN

If you’re walking by a park, visit the swings and give your partner a ride. This will often bring back happy memories from both your childhoods – and it might replace any negative old memories with new ones you’ve just created.

3. FUN WITH WATER

On a hot summer’s day, buy two large water pistols and take them to the beach with you. Pull them out and throw one to your partner and then have a huge water fight.

4. A MASSAGE WITH A TWIST

Buy a small, decorated cardboard box, a sheet of colored tissue paper, some massage oil and a blank card.

Line the box with the tissue paper.

Place the massage oil in the box and write the following message on the card: I know a great masseur. For an appointment call: (Your Phone Number)

5. BRING BACK CHILDHOOD MEMORIES

Contact your man’s family and ask if there was anything he always wanted when he was a little boy. For example if he always wanted a model airplane, buy one for his birthday. He’ll not only appreciate the gift, but also the fact that you were thoughtful enough to find out what he always wanted.

6. STARE AT THE CLOUDS

Drive into the country, find a grassy hill, and lie with your man and look up at the clouds.

7. WALK ALONG THE BEACH

Trace out the shape of a large love heart in the sand. Sit inside the heart and cuddle your partner as you watch the sun go down.

8. ORGANIZE A PICNIC ON A WARM SUMMER’S NIGHT

Spread a picnic blanket on the ground and get together some snacks, chocolates and champagne. Lie down on the blanket with your partner and gaze up at the stars together.

9. SHOW YOU’RE GRATEFUL FOR YOUR PARTNER

Leave a long-stem rose where your partner will find it, with a note on it saying: “Thank you for coming into my life.”

10. SPICE UP YOUR LOVEMAKING

Probably the most profound way to rekindle the romance in your relationship is to spice up your lovemaking. Surprise your partner with a little gift after you make love, try a new position, learn to give your partner a sensual massage before or after, or just spend some time staring into each other’s eyes and caressing his bare skin before making love.

Many people underestimate the affect passionate and intimate lovemaking has on a relationship. If you spice it up, chances are you and your partner will naturally do romantic things for each other. Why? Because passionate lovemaking connects two people in a meaningful and unexplainable way that nothing else can.

From The Editors: Michael Webb is Oprah’s relationship expert.  He’s written more books and had more successful relationships result from them than anyone.  We personally love 1000 Questions For Couples…it’s so clever, and there are just so many things you’ve never heard before – and it will give you WORDS to start conversations with your man that can actually help him open his heart to you.  And – if you look at it TOGETHER – you’ll automatically have something to talk about that’s deep instead of superficial, and can start a real flow of openness between you.  Go here to check out “1000 Questions” and restart the fire in your relationship->

1 Comment

  1. Daniel on June 21, 2011 at 8:54 am

    Make No1 sincere and avoid shallow and scheming -clear the unresolved issues

    No 10 Whilst energy, intimacy and novelty is good the 90% of it is mental eroticism -fire up your sexual fantasies by reading well written erotica and then create and discuss inventive ways to fulfill his fantasies and confront him with fantasies of your own.

    My best other tip is to control where and when you talk shop, do the minutiae and offload at each other.

    A killer scenario for me is to have a difficult day at work and then come home to be swamped with two hours of toxic ’emotional sewage’ followed by two hours of clearing up the grot left by family life such as bills, unwashed dishes and part digested-part eaten food. All the angels in heaven would not put me in the mood for intimacy on those days. Even half an hour to chill as I come in the door with a shower and maybe a drink makes a mega difference to how I cope with the rest. Resticting talk about “the issues” to daylight hours and leaving evening hours for talking about positive stimulating subjects is a phenomenal boost, even if only on Friday nights.



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